Did A Buddy Throw You Under The Bus Or Drop The Ball?
No one likes to be let down, especially by a friend who you were counting on to have your back; only to discover that they hurt you by letting you get blind-sided or failing to live up to their side of the bargain. If you have ever been thrown under the bus by a friend, your initial reaction was probably to end the friendship. Sometimes these kinds of emotional setbacks can be so scarring that friendships do end, however, OlyLife encourages those of you who have been hurt by a friend who dropped the ball, to consider forgiveness. Sometimes it takes a considerable cooling off period before you are ready to open your heart to forgiving that friend who betrayed your trust and that’s ok. We are all entitled to let our friends know when they have crossed the line and hurt us in some way. If, however, you carry the burden of non-forgiveness in your heart, then it may do you more harm than good – emotionally speaking. In the best of worlds, after a breach of trust or untoward act by a friend, a sincere apology is made and accepted and the friendship continues albeit with more caution on the part of the harmed person. If no apology is forthcoming, then it might be wise for the injured person to explain how and why they were hurt and to request an apology and a commitment to do better. In most cases, a good friend will own up to his or her mistake and then the friendship relationship can be restored back to normal.
What If My Friend Won’t Apologize and Continues To Let Me Down
All of us have a responsibility to choose our friends wisely. If you are friends with a person who flatly refuses to accept that they are hurting your feelings in some way or they are harming you, then you can forgive them but just let them know that you won’t consider them a close friend going forward. Life is precious and you should not accept continued poor treatment which is not appropriate from a stranger let alone a person you consider to be your friend. A good friend will accept some responsibility for the relationship and at least commit not to repeat the offending behavior. So, forgive your friends when they mess up, but make sure you are keeping only those who you can really trust as close friends and you will be one step closer to making the most of your one and only life – That’s OlyLife!